Your life was moving along as you would’ve expected. You were doing what you wanted to, pursuing a career, exercising, taking care of yourself, spending time with friends, and pursuing certain interests. Then, suddenly, everything seemed to change. Your mother was hospitalized and after a few days you were relieved to find out her doctor expected her to make a full recovery. What you didn’t expect, though, was how your life was going to change as a caregiver.
You may have felt like you had no choice.
The doctor said she needed support. She told you how important it was for your mother to have adequate care at home. She will not be able to do certain things on her own for a while. She was going to need to work through physical therapy, exercise, and strengthening regimens to get back to her normal mobility.
You didn’t think there was any other option. You just assumed this was your responsibility. After all, you live in the same town as her, so why wouldn’t you step up and help out?
Remember, home care is an option.
Even though you may feel this is your responsibility, hiring a home care aide is a great option to consider. The more experience a caregiver has in supporting seniors during recovery, the more likely they will offer insight, tips, and strategies that can help the senior maximize their recovery.
You, as a family caregiver, may have a great relationship with your mother, but that doesn’t mean you have the insight and knowledge about the best strategies to support her properly.
You can hire a home care aide part-time to start.
When you hire through an agency, you can hire caregivers for just a couple of hours a day once or twice a week to start. That can lay the foundation for a stronger relationship and offer your mother some extra comfort as she gets used to this new caregiver.
She can rely on you for a while, but eventually you can increase the hours this home care aide works with your mother.
Remember, make time for yourself.
If you don’t make time for yourself, stress as a family caregiver is going to increase. When stress increases, it can affect your relationship with your mother, your work life, your marriage, your friendships, and your health.
The best way to make time for yourself is to realize the value in home care support services.