It’s not always easy to see the forest for the trees, especially when you’re mired in the middle of a difficult situation, but as a family caregiver, stress may be affecting numerous aspects of your personal life. It could be affecting your work life, your health, and even your relationships.
“But,” you say, “my mother needs my help. I’m not turning my back on her.”
This is often a knee-jerk reaction people have when it seems as though their closest loved ones and friends are trying to convince them they might have to step back and take better care of themselves first. No one means to say you need to turn your back on your mother, father, or other loved one who needs help. What they may be saying is the signs of stress as a caregiver are beginning to show clearly and even though you don’t realize it, it can be directly impacting many aspects of your life, including and especially your relationships.
Here are three different ways that stress as a caregiver can actually affect your relationships, potentially causing harm to them and adding even more stress to your life.
1. You’re becoming short tempered.
You may have always had a temper or perhaps you’ve always been relatively even keel. Whatever the case may be, you now have a clearly defined short temper. You’re snapping at almost everyone in seemingly inconsequential situations.
Just recently you may have been in line at the supermarket and held up because somebody’s card wouldn’t go through. You started saying something under your breath and then by the time the cashier was checking you through, one minor problem led to a major meltdown.
If you’re becoming short tempered and that’s not normal for you, it’s important to realize how much of it is due to stress.
2. You simply don’t have time for anything.
When you don’t have time for much, one of the first things you let go of is time with your spouse, best friends, and others who are still important to you. You know they’ll understand.
Sure, they will, but that doesn’t give any of us a right to neglect them and the friendships or relationships we’ve built with them.
3. You’re forgetting too much.
You are supposed to meet with your best friend for lunch. You forgot. Maybe you even wrote it down in your organizer or added it to your calendar on your phone. Still, the date came and went and by the time you checked your messages and realized you had goofed, it was too late.
If stress as a family caregiver is affecting your life and relationships in negative ways, looking into home care options could be a great solution.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Manchester, NJ, contact the caring staff at Care Street Home Care’s Ocean/Monmouth Division. Call today 732-719-7011.