The simple notion of giving up one’s independence, even just a little bit, can cause most people to dig in, so to speak. Your mother might be in this particular situation right now. Maybe you’ve talked about hiring home care to help her, but she sees that as a loss of independence. She assumes that hiring a professional, experienced caregiver means she won’t be able to decide what happens each day.
She still wants to remain in control of her life.
That’s good. She should have every right to do that. She may assume that having somebody come to her house to help her out means she won’t be able to determine what gets done and when. She may assume this home care aide will tell her what needs to be cleaned, what tasks she needs to complete at the moment, and basically take over the decision-making process.
The reality is an experienced caregiver understands the boundaries.
The more experience a home care aide has in supporting seniors in need, the more likely he or she will have a lot of understanding with regard to where the boundaries are. They will realize that their elderly client is in control.
They will offer encouragement and support.
Sure, an experienced caregiver may suggest to your mother that something would be better to be done when they are there to help them, but they won’t force your mother to do things she doesn’t want to do.
Some seniors become adamant about maintaining control of their life to the point of completely refusing any suggestions whatsoever. That may be fine. That may be exactly what your mother needs to do during those first days or weeks working with a home care aide. If it allows her to feel in control, and if it allows her to realize she is still an independent person, then that home care aide, while potentially frustrated at times, will certainly respect that.
It can help if your mother has an opportunity to meet with a potential caregiver.
When hiring through an agency, your mother should be able to meet with a prospective home care aide. This would be her opportunity to talk about the concerns she has, explain what she wants, and realize that this individual, this caregiver, is going to be supporting her and not dictating what she can or can’t do.
That’s a great way to help your mother realize the benefits of home care options.