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Your Father’s Doctor Ordered Around-the-Clock Care for Him, but He Flat Out Refuses: Now What?

This situation has been going on for several years. Your father, widowed and living alone, has been calling you more and more frequently for help, especially in these last months. Because of certain health issues, he has had to visit his doctor numerous times this past year. Lately, though, his doctor has been admonishing him to get home care.

Home Care for Seniors in Medford NJ: When Dad Refuses Care

Home Care for Seniors in Medford NJ: When Dad Refuses Care

He just refuses to consider the option.

Home care is one of the best options for elderly and disabled men and women across the country. Unfortunately, due to misconceptions or certain preconceived notions about the cost, availability, or benefits home care can offer, some seniors may flat out refuse to even think about this option.

What can you do now?

Ultimately, your father has the right to decide whether or not he relies on a home care aide, visiting nurse, or other professional coming to his house. This might feel as though it puts you in a bind, but you also have every right to tell him you can no longer offer this kind of help. You have your own life, responsibilities, and perhaps career. All of those things tend to become compromised when people take on the role of a family caregiver.

If your father’s doctor has recommended around-the-clock care, it’s a serious concern.

That means your father is most likely dealing with extremely limited mobility and diminished physical capacity. If he has to get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, he may be at an elevated risk of falling and being injured.

Your father’s doctor likely knows a lot about his condition.

She has probably seen a lot of other elderly patients in similar physical conditions as your father. She knows what she’s talking about. Your father may not want to admit to these challenges or he may be overly dependent on you because you’ve been there every step of the way for the past several years.

Now is the time to talk openly and honestly.

You need to let him know about your limitations. Advise him about the risks he’s taking trying to do things on his own, depending solely on you. Also, don’t forget to listen. This is one of the most effective communication tools we have, though few of us actually listen as well as we could. There may be some misconceptions or ideas he has about home care he’s tried to express in the past. When you listen to his concerns and what he’s thinking, you will likely find common ground to at least discuss the prospect of hiring home care support services for those overnight hours to start.

If you or an aging loved one are considering home care for seniors in Medford, NJ, please contact the caring staff at TLC HomeCare Services today at 856-234-8700

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Patti Maltese, and Kelly McCabe

Patti is the original founding partner of TLC in 2009 and has been in the staffing industry for many years both as an Office manager, recruiter, client specialist, and sales rep. She staffed nurses for the state of NJ in state facilities and is currently a CHHA as well. She has a Bachelors Degree in Communications and oversees the daily operations of TLC. She recently graduated from the Goldman Sachs 10KSB program for business owners in Phila. and the relationships and knowledge from that program has helped her to take TLC to the next level in multiple ways. She is a mother to 2 daughters and a grandmother to 2 girls as well.She resides in Mt. Laurel and loves advocating for seniors and others less fortunate in the community.

Kelly C. McCabe is the co-owner of TLC HomeCare Services.In addition to management, marketing and sales, staffing and recruiting, Kelly holds her New Jersey producer’s license in Health and Life insurance and isalso a New Jersey Certified Home Health Aide.Kelly is the proud mother of two daughters and is a resident of Moorestown, NJ.

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